What Do You Look for in Relationships?

Your Results:

This study examined which elements of a relationship are most important to you. Here are your results, based on your responses:

Your General Relationship Preferences
Desired Involvement - 66th percentile - high
Desired Independence - 26th percentile - low
Overall, you're looking for high involvement in your relationships, which means that it takes high levels of attention and maintenance in order for you to feel close with another person. You also seem to want low independence in your relationships.
Your Specific Relationship Preferences

Time Together Communication Intimacy Support Emotional Connection Affection

is the most important element of a close relationship to you, followed by:
The gray, translucent bars in the above graph show how people in general rank the importance of each relationship quality. For example, people in general

By comparing the colored bars to the translucent bars, you can see how much you value each aspect of a relationship compared to people in general. For instance, you value spending time together in a close relationship most other people.

Compared to the Average Person:
  • You want to spend very low amounts of time together in your close relationships.
  • You need low levels of communication in order to feel close to others.
  • You require about average intimacy in your close relationships, which means that you want to share about average amounts of personal information.
  • Your desire for people to be there to support you when you need them is about average.
  • In order for you to feel close to others, you require about average levels of emotional connection, which means it's of about average importance to you that other people like you, feel happy thinking about you, and miss you when you're not around.
  • When trying to feel close to others, you need high amounts of affection, which includes others finding ways to show you they love you.

What Explains Your Relationship Preferences?

Psychologists have found that people have different styles of forming relationships. These relationship styles are called attachment styles. Attachment styles are made up of two components: anxiety and avoidance. Anxiety refers to the extent that you worry that others won't like you or might abandon you. Avoidance refers to how much you dislike being too close to other people. People with different levels of anxiety and avoidance desire different amounts of involvement in relationships. Our relationship preferences are affected by our attachment styles.
Your Attachment Style
Anxiety - 28th percentile - low
Avoidance - 14th percentile - very low

Your attachment style is
There are four attachment styles.
  1. Secure individuals have low anxiety and avoidance. For the most part, they form close, comfortable relationships.
  2. Preoccupied individuals have high anxiety and low avoidance. They like to feel close to other people, but may worry a lot about being abandoned in their relationships.
  3. Dismissing individuals have high avoidance and low anxiety. They want to maintain control in their relationships, and don't like it when other people get too close.
  4. Fearful-avoidant individuals have high avoidance and high anxiety. They may feel conflicting emotions in their relationships--wanting to feel close, but also fearing and disliking closeness.

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